Guadalupe Hirt, SecondActWomen Co-Founder
According to multiple sources on the Internet, an adult makes about 35,000 remotely conscious decisions each day. While there are many factors that influence our decision-making like biases, reason, emotions and memories, ultimately, it is me, myself and I that makes the decision.
While some decisions are trivial, many decisions pose opportunities for change and growth. When Barb asked me to join SecondActWomen, I hesitated. At the time, I was working on another project, and I didn't feel I had the time or the energy to take on another passion project. Let's just say, I'm glad I changed my mind!
I have found that in these situations, my mind becomes a worthy adversary, giving way to that little voice inside that is quick to remind me that "I can't do this" or "I don't have any real value to add." Sadly, my mind has won more than I'd like to admit, but instead of just saying "no," I've since adopted a few strategies that have helped me even out the battlefield with my mental adversary that could work for you as well.
1. Pause before you answer. Often, my first thought is informed by fear, doubt or sheer laziness, which usually results in a "nope." But, now instead of impulsively responding, I now take a minute or two to let the idea land and candidly ask myself "What can I learn from saying 'yes' to this decision."
2. Avoid saying "no" for a day. If you're a Jim Carey fan, you know all the amazing things, people and places he experienced in Yes Man. Many decisions require me to step out of my comfy zone, which naturally makes me uneasy. But it's these decisions, that have fueled the most growth. There have been days when I wake up and I tell myself, "today I am saying yes at least 20 times."
3. Life is a classroom. Through SecondActWomen, I've changed my outlook on success vs. failure, and I now look at both as blessings. There is inherent learning and growth in both and when I consciously decided to reduce the stress and burden associated with each, I learned to be a little nicer and more forgiving to myself. I've developed (and still developing) a new lens to look and learn from life experiences.
There you have it. Your day is filled with thousands of decisions (aka opportunities). Some will be easy, others will be harder, some will change you and others will open new doors, but in the end, you are the maker of your day and you are the decision maker of your life.
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Guadalupe Hirt,  Co-Founder of SecondActWomen