by Guadalupe Hirt
In five days, we will bid adieu to 2019 and welcome a new decade. Take the time to reflect on happenings that shaped your life this year – the good and the bad. Self-reflection is a means to observe and analyze oneself in order to grow as a person and understand who you are now and who you’d like to become. It’s an important step to remind us where we’ve been and then create the roadmap or vision board to turn action into inspired action – the greatest form of moving towards a fulfilling life.
Before you start your self-reflection journey, it is important to get into the right mindset. Below are a few simple tips to help you mentally reset and reflect with an authentic and compassionate heart.
Now that your mind and heart are in a positive state, it’s time to start your year in review. While there are many approaches to this next step, below are my top 15 questions you can use to jump start your thinking.
With answers in hand, you’re ready to create a plan or vision board to help you achieve your goals for 2020. On behalf of Barbara and I, a heartfelt thank you for joining us on this ride. We wish you much success next year and if we can help with anything, you know where to find us!
by Guadalupe Hirt
As the countdown to the end of year draws near, remember we aren’t just welcoming a new year, we are welcoming a new decade. Let that land for a little!
This year for me personally AND professionally, has been a year of tremendous trials and tribulations, but also of unfathomable successes and accomplishments. I could not have risen from my lowest of lows or celebrated the highest of highs without my family (of course), but this year in particular, I learned I could not have grown into the person I am right now, without the love and support of my SecondAct|Women tribe.
What is a tribe? For me, a tribe can be a person or a group of people that are unconditionally there for you and accept you as you are – no questions asked. They look out for you and are genuinely vested in your overall wellbeing. They bring out the best in you and you in them. What started as my beautiful and amazing tribe of 1 – aka #workwife Barbara Brooks – has since blossomed into a tribe of 1.5k+.
While I won’t deny that it has been a challenging year in many ways – financially, mentally and emotionally – I am amazed, humbled and inspired by the tribe you + we have created! From the genuine comments and engagement in our Facebook group, to the hugs and smiles exchanged at our social gatherings to the magic that unfolds at BizLifeCon, I can only think of one word to sum it all up – WOW! This tribe of once strangers turned SecondActers is a wonderful testament to the power and beauty that unfolds when women support other women and genuinely show up.
Since co-launching SecondAct|Women this year, I’ve learned that being part of a tribe of like-minded women is truly a gift. The saying “it takes a village” was created because we all need a village or a tribe to help us find our way in this world. A tribe to lift us up when we fall. A village to offer advice when we feel lost. A sisterhood that accepts us exactly the way we are – no questions asked. Can you go at it alone? Of course, but life is more fun with friends, just sayin’.
Here’s to finding your tribe and building beautiful connections!
Yeah, right. How can I be happy with all the pressures of the world on my shoulders – and this being my favorite time of the year damnit. But sometimes, it seems relentless and this week I went down. Down for the count in my mind and I’m coming up for air. Well, sort of.
This week it got dark for me and it’s taken me everything to fake smiles throughout the day only wishing to be home and in bed to sleep off my worries because Lord knows, there’s plenty of them. I had to even post about it on Facebook to our group just needing some sense of, “I’m not, alone am I,” and sadly, I’m not. The buck stops here after hearing from others. I’m choosing, or should I say, making myself get out of my mind bubble filled with negative thoughts and the ‘why me’ questions constantly nagging me. And guess what? Instead, I’m answering ‘why is this always happening to me’ right now with ‘because it’s a part of my story.”
Why am I sharing this with you? Because we’ve all been there and for me, transparency is who I am today with hopes that others going through the feeling of defeat know 1. they are not alone; 2. in due time, this too shall pass; and 3. there is sunshine on the other side. We simply have got to hang in there and when possible, lean on family, friends or this community of badass women making bold moves with an attitude of ‘I will survive’. (Or watch the Masked Singer, Real Housewives or 90 Day Fiancé – my go to LOL)
So, if you’ve been feeling the weight of career and life, reach out to someone. Only you can make the choice to move on, get over or and be happy. Just never. Ever. Give. Up.
Your homework assignment if you related is to… get to writing, as I did this morning, all the things to be grateful for. Do it. Do it now and you’ll be reminded of all the goodness in this world.
Barbara + Riley (My support pup. Wink.)