by Guadalupe Hirt
I’ve never thought of myself as special. In fact, I consider myself a plain Jane vanilla, or in my case plain Jane mocha kinda girl.
I’m that girl that’s gone through life blind to her own gifts. It’s not that I purposely turned a blind eye, it was just that I never saw them as gifts. When I co-founded SecondAct|Women, I was definitely nervous because I couldn’t see what I could bring to the table. Why would any of you want to hear me, let alone listen to me? I saw myself as an imposter. As someone that wasn’t qualified or prepared enough to represent all of you.
Have you ever sold yourself short?
Last July, I had my first Reiki session and it was transformative. For the first time in my life, I felt guided and seen. I began to 'see' my gifts and began to understand their value. I have since been working on letting go of beliefs that speak of lack, unworthiness and undermining. I chose to take off the judgment glasses that I had allowed society and others to put on me and for the first time in my life, I saw me.
It has been a long time coming and I’m still a work in progress, but in this year and a half, I’ve given myself permission to grow and it’s through this growth that I’ve stepped into owning my gifts. You see, we all have gifts to share. I may not be the most talented singer, and I didn’t discover some disease-curing drug, but I still have contributions and awesomeness to share. I just needed to get out of my own way and show up to everything I do authentically and with heart. That is all it takes to unlock and share your gifts ladies.
Along this journey, I’ve learned a few things that I wanted to share with you in hopes they will help you too.
Here’s some of my ‘you got this girl’ advice:
And last, but not least, even in our plain jane vanilla, chocolate or mocha, most ordinary state of being, remember you are extraordinary. Because you can’t spell extraordinary without ordinary.
Special shout out to Suzanne Wolf for this beautiful quote she shared in our Facebook group. It perfectly sums up what I (we) hope for you!
May you have the courage from this point forward to begin breaking patterns in your life that do not serve you. Give yourself permission to pause and reflect. And remember taking care of yourself doesn’t mean me first, it means me too.